Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Get started!

"... if we wait for the moment when everything, absolutely everything is ready, we shall never begin." ~ Ivan Turgenev

Do you regularly find yourself saying that you'll get to it later.  Do you feel like there are things you have to do before you do the things you need to do?  Sometimes you just have to get started.  Sure, there are times when you need to go in order but, most times that is just an excuse. 

Stop making up reasons not to do the things you need to get started.  If you wait, time passes you. 

Affirmation -- Say: "I will begin something today."

Thursday, October 21, 2010

“Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans” ~ John Lennon

It is important to be prepared. To reach goals in life and business, you have to have a plan to attain them. Work diligently to set a path for yourself.

However, don’t get too narrow. You have many goals. Don’t work too hard at one goal at the expense of other goals or things in your life. I know a man that worked so hard to provide a roof over his kid’s head that he was never home to raise his kids.

Work hard but remember the moments in life and the important people in life. What do you and they really need? Take a moment to dial it back if it’s out of control and you are too focused on one goal.

Affirmation – Say: “I will make sure that all things in my life are given the right amount of attention.”

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Consider your sources

We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. ~Anais Nin

Anytime you think you are factual about a situation, think again. Objectivity is nearly impossible. You can improve your outlook by first checking your own agenda. Your beliefs and desires will skew anything. When listening to others - consider the source. Who are they? Who are you? These two questions will have impact in any circumstance - even something that appears to be neutral.

If you factor in your point of view and the other persons point of view, you will have a better perspective.

Affirmation – Say: “I will consider all sources in every situation and this will help me make better decisions.”

Monday, August 16, 2010

Advice

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't." ~ Erica Jong

How many times do you ask for advice and never take it?  There are many reasons for this.
  • You want someone else to blame for something not working
  • The advice is not right for you at this moment in time.
  • What you are told to do is too daunting.
  • You didn't like the answer.
  • Procrastination with things you don't want to do.
  • The person who gave you the advice didn't have enough information.
Instead of asking for advice - do some soul searching.  Ask yourself questions related to your problem.  Take the time to break things down and do the pros and cons.  It's ok to ask what others would do in your situation but, stop short of having others tell you what to do.  Find the answers within yourself and watch yourself grow.

Affirmation: "I will seek the answers to my own questions.  It will make me stronger."

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Socialize

“Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after.” ~ Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Are you feeling lonely? Is it getting you down? Feel isolated? Then you need to reach out. When you feel that there is no one in the world but you, then you can get fatigued and unmotivated to do anything. Reaching out to others and creating wonderful experience can rejuvenate you. It will help you reach your goals. A simple phone call, a dinner out, tea or coffee with someone will create some inspirations and remind you that not only are you not alone but you are in good company with which to share your dreams.

Affirmation: “I will talk to someone about my dreams and how they will come true.”

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Rich

“Life begets life. Energy creates energy. It is by spending oneself that one becomes rich.” ~ Sarah Bernherdt 

Abundance comes to those that think about money in a healthy way. If you worry about debt then you are living in the past. Don’t ignore it and don’t beat yourself up with how you got there.  Instead, focus on what you can create to fill your life and amazingly, you will fill your wallet, too.

Affirmation: “I will make money by pursuing my dreams.”

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Choose happiness

"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it." ~ Riki Lynn Tull

It is not easy to control your thoughts and attitude.  It takes practice to get it right.  If you remind yourself daily that you are the only one that has the power to make yourself happy - then you will see it happen.  Constant water carves out rivers, gorges and the Grand Canyon.  Small happy thoughts everyday will make a difference.  Give it a try.  Otherwise, let others and other events control you and your destiny.  What do you have to lose?

Affirmation: "I have the power to control my thoughts and change my attitude no matter what happens to me."

Monday, August 9, 2010

Change

“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” George Bernard Shaw

So many want to do better, be better, do different, be different – however, until you change your thought processes and beliefs, you will always end up in the same place you were before. The mind is so powerful, it can trick you. The last thing your brain wants you to do is change because that might mean you’ve been wrong. Just because you did something different and it didn’t work, it doesn’t make it wrong. 

It’s time – it’s time to change your mind.

Affirmation: “I will change my thoughts and beliefs so that I can be what I aspire to be.”

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Support

“Here is the basic rule for winning success. Let's mark it in the mind and remember it. The rule is: Success depends on the support of other people. The only hurdle between you and what you want to be in is the support of other people.” - David Joseph Schwartz

All sports teams have their fans! Who are your fans? Are you constantly surrounding yourself with people that want to hold you back or people who cheer you on? The winning sport team is the one with all the fans yelling and cheering them on…even when they are down. It may not be your partner or your family or even friends but there is support our there for you. Your fans are the support you need when you are succeeding and when you are struggling. Find them – you need them.

Affirmation – say: “I will find support of people who believe in me and my goals.”

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Help

“Tell everyone what you want to do and someone will want to help you do it.” -- W. Clement Stone

Many of us are too proud to ask for help. Or maybe it’s just not in our personality. Also, it’s possible we want those to pay better attention to our struggles and help us. Guess what? Not everyone is that in tune to you. Not everyone can read your mind or is focused on what you might need.

People want to help you! I promise. They just need to be asked.

Affirmation -- Say: I will ask for help when I need it.

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Your Gift

The meaning of life is to find your gift, the purpose of life is to give it away ~ Joy J. Golliver 

If you have discovered your life passion, yet you do not share, then you are not living your life purpose. As a matter of fact, you are being rather selfish if you do not share your gift with the world. You need to shout to the world all that you have to offer. You are not pushy, you are genuine. There are people in this world that will only be able to connect to you and no one else.

Affirmation – say: “I will share my gift to the world.”

Friday, May 28, 2010

Opinions

“Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth.” - Katherine Mansfield 

It’s good to get feedback – but only when you ask for it. Heed good criticisms but don’t let them paralyze you! Others will try to influence you but they might not be coming from a place that is right for you. It’s easy to take other people’s advice because if it doesn’t work out then we can blame them! No more! There will be many times when you just need to do what you have to do – regardless of others warnings. They aren’t always right!

Affirmation – say: “I will trust my own judgment and go for it.”

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Lean

“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.” - Bob Moawad

It's super important to get support from others and get help - but, be very careful to not lean too hard. They might not be able to hold you up or they may not know that are supposed to hold you up. This could lead to a hard and unpleasant fall. When you ask for help be sure to also figure out a way to do it yourself later. Let them teach you to be stronger!

Affirmation – say: “ I will ask for help and then learn to do it on my own.”

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Alone

“You're only lonely if you're not there for you.” – Phil C. McGraw

The lonely times in life are when you don’t love yourself. Relying solely on others for self worth will create loneliness. If you are lonely reach out to yourself first – do something for yourself that brings a smile to your face. Loneliness is a world you create for yourselves and only you can undo the loneliness. First desire it and then act upon it.

Affirmation – Say: “I will choose to leave loneliness behind me. I will find love within myself.”

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Adversity

“Sometimes we think that if we hang on to our anger and bad attitude, we show that it’s not ok – but real strength is smiling in adversity.” - unknown

Life can be tough – there is no doubt. It’s only as tough as we make it. We have choices on how we view the rough times in life. It is easy to complain. It takes real strength to let things go or see the good in a situation. If you are angry at someone or a situation, try letting go. It drains your energy and makes you ineffective at solving problems. In other words, take the high road and make wonderful things happen.

Affirmation – say: “I will let go of anger and I will forgive so that I may become stronger.”

Monday, May 24, 2010

Problems

“Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them.” - Unknown

There is another saying, if the only tool you have is a hammer then everything is a nail. If everything is a problem you will always be negative. Mentally, shift your problems into learning moments and / or opportunities. Think to yourself – how can I change this into something good.

Affirmation – say: “I will flip my problems into opportunities and lessons to learn.”

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Abilities

“Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” - Lou Holtz

Sometimes it is hard to have faith in our abilities. We are all capable in some way or another. Don't let the small things get you down or the harsh things others might say stop you. Believe in yourself and your abilities - the only thing keeping you from where you want to be is yourself.

Affirmation – say: “I will achieve because I believe.”

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Risk

“The policy of being too cautious is the greatest risk of all.” - Jawaharlal Nehru

Go ahead and take that risk! What are you afraid of? That your life will be different? Better? You will have to settle with your life, as it is, if you take no risks. Status quo is only ok for a moment - if only to catch a breath but, the moment you stop taking risk is the moment you stop growing…moving…improving.

Affirmation – Say: “I will take that risk in order to grow and prosper.”

Friday, May 21, 2010

Try

“Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.” Mary Anne Radmacher

Are you trying to leap Mount Everest with one bound? Are you trying to do it ALL at the same time? Think out the process of what it is that you are trying to accomplish. Break it down to small steps and do only what you can today. No one says you have to finish your entire goal today. Start with something small and simple. Build upon what you start.

Affirmation – say: “I will try a little today and a little tomorrow and I will create success one step at a time.”

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Determination

“Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.” -- George Sheehan

You will become the person you were meant to be when you realize that there are no other options. Determination is when you decide that nothing is going to stop you. Are you letting things and people stop you? What are you telling yourself? What excuses are you using?

Affirmation – say: “I am determined to keep going and nothing will stop me.”

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Fear

“Courage is doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared.” Edward Vernon Rickenbacker

Fear is a good thing. It helps us protect ourselves from the things that can really harm us. But, we use it too much as an excuse. It readily available to use for not doing...for not changing. Use fear wisely to protect yourself BUT, don't use it as a crutch. To get any happiness or success, you must be willing to set aside fear and take that leap of faith. Take risks or you will always get the same thing.

Affirmation-Say: “I will have courage even when I am scared.”

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Believe

“Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.” – Gail Devers

Don't let your fear or self-esteem hold you back from anything. Don't think for one minute you can't do something! Whatever that "something" is - there are others less capable than you who do it! What's the worst that can happen if you try? Feeling less than courageous? Look in the mirror and write down what you love about yourself - brains and all!

Affirmation – Say: “I will believe in myself and my abilities.”

Friday, May 7, 2010

Pick your battles

“Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win.”- Jonathan Kozol

Is life with others a constant struggle? Do you look at others with a negative eye? Do people in your life constantly go against you? Is it you or them? Do you go head to head with people all the time? Chances are you are struggling with something on the inside and you are taking it out on those around you – family, friends, and strangers. As you fight the fight, look at yourself in the mirror and decide, is it really them or really you. If you make everything a fight in life then you are always fighting. What are you really fighting about?

Affirmation – Say: “I will relax, make peace with myself and not make all issues a battle.”

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Purpose

“You can have anything you want - if you want it badly enough. You can be anything you want to be, do anything you set out to accomplish if you hold to that desire with singleness of purpose.” - Abraham Lincoln

Do you know your purpose? Do you honor that purpose with each and every decision? Do you move forward only to keep your eye on your failures or your past. Look ahead and crave something better – if you do not you are not alive. Do not settle! You were not put here on this earth to just go through the motions. Find your purpose and honor it. The world needs you and all that you have to offer.

Affirmation – Say: “My purpose is to share my gifts with the world.”

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Reinvention

“We must reinvent a future free of blinders so that we can choose from real options.” David Suzuki

Don’t like what you see in the mirror? Reinvent yourself! You don’t have to do it over night. If you work on it a little at a time, others will begin to see the new you and more importantly accept the new you. However, you must look at the whole you. All of us have blind spots that hold us back. Set yourself to discover what those are whether through journals, meditations, or another person’s feedback. Once you have the truth of “you” - you can be anyone you want to be.

Affirmation – Say: “I am going to reinvent myself with all the options the world has to offer.”

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Honor

“The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.” Socrates

You may have heard the term or saying: “Honor one self.” What does this mean to you? I like to call it “fake till you make it.” If your outside is confident, kind, helpful, motivated – make your inside catch up. Pretend on the outside but tell your inside it’s the truth. After a while you might actually believe that you can be anything you want to be. The way to honor your self is to start with trying and end with doing.

Affirmation – Say: “I will honor myself by no longer pretending and by being my best self.”

Friday, April 30, 2010

Assumptions

“The harder you fight to hold on to specific assumptions, the more likely there's gold in letting go of them.” - John Seely Brown

How many times have you been wrong about yourself? Your world? You assume certain things are just GOING to happen and they don’t do they? Prejudging yourself based on false beliefs will only limit you. Do not assume that just because it was true a moment ago that it will always be true.

Affirmation – say: “I will let go of the negative assumptions I have about myself.”

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Limitations

“Our limitations and success will be based, most often, on your own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon.” - Denis Waitley

When you focus on all that you can not achieve you will not reach success. Truly happy people, truly successful people focus on possibilities. What do you center on in your life? All that you can’t do or all that you might be able to do?

Affirmation – say: “I will focus on the possibilities in me, instead of my limitations.”

Monday, April 26, 2010

Focus

Are you going 90 miles an hour? Doing a million things, yet nothing gets accomplished? STOP and focus. If you need to make a to-do list and prioritize! For heaven’s sake stop doing what is in front of you at the moment…it’s distracting you. You must do the important things first and everything else can wait.

Affirmation – say: “I will focus my attention on the most important matter at the moment.”

Sunday, April 25, 2010

ReCHARGE!

Try to take some time for yourself today. Perhaps it means spending time with your family, going to a ball game or gardening – maybe you can curl up with a good book. Every day doesn’t have to be filled with productivity. Life doesn’t stop or end with days filled to the brim with crazy activities.

Affirmation – say: “I will take a leisure day to recharge!”

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Celebrate

Today, celebrate life and the little things in life. We worry so much about the big events that we fail to see the wonder of the every day journey.

Affirmation – say: “I will enjoy the day for the here and now!

Friday, April 23, 2010

Find the easy way

Are you trying too hard and making things more complicated than they need to be? Are you so busy looking at the challenge that you miss the solution? Focus on what you’ve accomplished and the possibilities. Start with the basics. You didn’t just pick up a book one day and start to read. You started with the alphabet. But, just because you couldn’t read, didn’t mean you couldn’t tell a story. What can you do in the mean time? What positive steps can you take while you figure out that challenge?

Affirmation – say: “I will look for the easy solution.”

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Uniqueness

Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? Wondering if you are the same or if you are too different? Stop worrying about others! You bring so much to the world. You are not dull, boring or predictable – you are unique and that is what makes you stand out.

Affirmation – say: “I celebrate my uniqueness, even when I may seem similar!”

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Multi-tasking

Multi-tasking is not something to always be proud of. If you are a perfectionist, you probably take pride in saying that one of your best skills is multi-tasking. If you are a guilty parent, you probably think multi-tasking is a requirement. If you are a go-getter at work, you probably think multi-tasking makes you more efficient.

If you do true multi-tasking – i.e. more than one thing at a time, then you are not giving anything 100% of your focus or effort. Mistakes will be make. Try this on for size: “Task Switching.” How fast you switch between tasks is up to you. Just keep in mind the 100% focus.


Affirmation – say: “I will give the things I do and the people I interact with 100% of my attention and effort!”

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Procrastination

What are you waiting for? We make time for the things are important to us. Maybe you are putting it off because it’s not something that is important to you. Perhaps you are overwhelmed. Time to break it down to smaller chunks. Remember, if you aren’t working on it, it’s not getting done. Either drop it or do it.

Affirmation – Say: “I will get it started or I will toss it!”

Monday, April 19, 2010

Worry

Worry is just like fear! It can be an asset or a block. Most times it’s a wasted emotion – a block that keeps us from doing anything. You can use it wisely if it’s something that comes into your life. Much like fear use it in a way to protect yourself.

Why do you worry? What do you worry about? Do your worries come true? If they do make changes so that it stops. If your worries don’t come true, you need to change your thinking. Positive outcomes are just as likely as what you worry about!

Affirmation – say: “I will think positive outcomes are a possibility.”

Saturday, April 17, 2010

Awareness

Do you have blinders on? When overwhelm or underwhelm occurs, it is easy to stick our heads in the sand and pretend things are not there. Take a moment to look around and see if you are engaged with the world, the people you love and yourself. Are you aware of your behaviors? Are they representing the real you? Something could be out of sync. It’s ok to ask for help in seeing the blind spots of your life.




Affirmation – Say: “I will be more aware of myself and everything around me.”

Friday, April 16, 2010

Giving Up

Something not working? Many times you will just go and go and go without stopping to see if you are spinning your wheels – wasting precious time – beating a dead horse with a stick! STOP!

Take a look. Do you need to shift gears or trying something new? Maybe you need a new perspective or try a different approach?

IT’S NOT GIVING UP!

You don’t have to be so stubborn! Learn from what you have done so far and try a different approach. It’s not failure it’s paradigm shifting AND a smart thing to consider.

Affirmation – Say: “I am not giving up. I am learning from what I have done so far and improving!”

Thursday, April 15, 2010

Consideration

Consideration of others before your self is a form of self-care, however, it can be tricky! Others will notice when you consider them and will in most circumstances reciprocate.

It is important to use consideration wisely and for the right things. Allowing someone who only has two items to go ahead of you and your cart is full is wise consideration. Saying “Yes” when you really mean “No” is not wise consideration.

Learn the differences.
Affirmation – Say: “I will use consideration often and wisely.”

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Legacy

What kind of legacy are you creating for the next generation? Are you living in a way that is loving and honorable? Are you proud of your life?

It’s never too late to recreate your life in a way that honors who you are now, how you are thought of and how you want to be remembered.

Affirmation- Say: “I will take steps to create an honorable legacy.”

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Potential

Everyone has potential to accomplish whatever it is they need to accomplish. The difference between those that succeed and those that don’t has nothing to do with potential – it has to do with using that potential to its fullest.

Don’t sit around saying that you’d like to do something. You have to take action, even if something small.
Affirmation- Say: I will use my potential to its fullest.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Honor your body

Is your body sending you messages that you are ignoring?Self-care is more than just mental; it is also physical.

Do you and your loved ones a favor and make sure that you take care of your body. Do not take it for granted, it’s the only one you got! If it breaks down, they will no longer have you in their lives and they need you.

As you age, if you do not take care of your body, you can become a burden. Is that what you want?

Affirmation – say: I will start to take care of my body so that I live a long healthy life – for me and for my loved ones.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Mistakes

How many mistakes have you made in life? If you are like most people, it’s a million!How many of them reoccur over and over. STOP!

You must move on and stop remaking the same mistakes. They might be in disguise or come in different forms but, it’s still the same mistake.

Find someone to help. Not a friend – it must be a neutral party who can give you honest feedback.

Affirmation – say: I will stop repeating the same mistakes!

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Resistance

Is there something in your life that you have been resisting? You might even think of it as procrastinating? Why? There are a lot of reasons we resist. Try this one on for size.

Perhaps it doesn’t honor the core of who you are. There are some things that we have to do, whether we like them or not. Some things don’t have to be done, but we don’t push them away permanently. Why not?This is a waste of time and energy!

Affirmation – say: I will end the things I’ve been resisting and be reenergized!

Friday, April 9, 2010

Band-Aids on problems

We so often put bandaids on infections. Our problems in life are like infections. We treat the surface, only for it to come back again. Real problems are usually deep and have to be treated or they will never go away.

Get to the root. Use “___is a problem because…” on your problems until you can’t answer it anymore. You will get closer to the root problem.

Affirmation-say: I will work hard to get to the root problem.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Fear

Fear can protect and it can paralyze. Most often it is the later.

We constantly make up reasons to be fearful but, they are so rarely based in reality – our perception and beliefs are too strong.Make a list of your fears and see how often they have ever come true.

Perhaps it’s time to remove some fears that keep you from living life and excelling at what you most desire.Fear is a wasted excuse…lessen it’s power.

Affirmation – say: I will use fear wisely and with an open mind.

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Journey

We’ve become so impatient lately. The economy is making everyone stressed out and anxious – so much so that we are forgetting the journey of life. 

You’re urgency can be a wonderful asset – it’ll keep you from wasting time. However, if you are not enjoying the process you need to be spending your time elsewhere. Do the things that make you whole and serve your life purpose.

Affirmation – say: I will relish the moments even when I’m in a hurry.

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Indecision

Making a decision about anything can create havoc on your mental energy. If you are having trouble with making a decision right now, take a day off. Don’t think about it!

Next make a list:
Strengths of decision
Weakness
Opportunities
Threats

You can also do a simple pros and cons of each choice – don’t go be the number of items but the weight.Most decision are not life threatening. You just need to set your priorities.

Affirmation- say: I will methodically plan my large decision making.

Monday, April 5, 2010

Inner Critic

The things you tell yourself hold you back – if you listen. Put the toxic voice on mute. Building your self confidence begins with the words you use. If they don’t say something good about you, don’t listen and throw them out! It’s true we are not good at everything but you can rephrase it in a way that is not toxic.

Take a moment to think of something you beat yourself up about – “I’m bad at….” Let’s change it to I’m good at….”

Affirmation – Say: I’m a good at many many things. One of them is_________.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

Conflict

There are many ways to handle situations that make you angry.  You can react or respond.  Reacting is usually destructive.  We either fight or retreat into a shell only to let things fester.  A better way is to think and respond.  Stop and decided do I need address this now?  How important is this issue?  Sometimes it's better to wait but don't avoid - either within yourself or with the one that you have conflict.  Waiting will help you respond instead of react.

Affirmation ---

Say: I will respond to conflict with a level head!

Saturday, April 3, 2010

If only…

Regrets will keep you in the past!!! You must let go of what could’ve been. Learn and move on!  We live in the present with an eye on the future. You will waste time or might not even try if you wallow in regrets.

Write them on a piece of paper and then burn it.


Affirmation

Say: I will let go of regrets and move on with my life.

Friday, April 2, 2010

You have to care

If you don’t care about others then they will not care about you. Caring doesn’t make you a weak person it makes you more respected.  You can be strong and care at the same time. As a matter of fact, only the strong can truly care. In turn, caring can make you stronger.



Affirmation


Say: I will learn to care more about others.

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Gratitude

When life is hard and you are struggling, it’s hard to find things to be happy about – but, it’s not impossible.  When we take a moment to be grateful for the good things we have in life, our attitude changes quickly.

What are you grateful for?


Affirmation
Say: I will find gratitude in the good areas of my life.

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Shake it up

If you do the same thing day after day after day – you will stagnate.  A still pool of water grows algae and mosquitoes.  Change your routine and you will find some energy, happiness, life!


Affirmation

Say: I will make a change in my routine.

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Just say no

How many times have you said “yes” when it should have been “no.”  You do no one any favors if you always say yes. You might grow resentful. You might burn out or perhaps you will burden others with complaints about saying yes to something you don’t want to do or just can’t.

Pick and choose wisely, the things you commit to doing.

Affirmation
Say: I will be stronger at saying no.

Monday, March 29, 2010

Follow-though

It’s been said over and over in business, especially sales – follow through!  When you tell others that you will do something then do it. If you can’t, communicate the problem with them. People are more understanding than you give them credit.


Affirmation

Say: I will do the things I promise to do, if I can’t, I will communicate.

Sunday, March 28, 2010

Recharge!!!!

Are you relaxing, exercising, and/or socializing?  You should be doing something to recharge yourself. If you are constantly sick – it’s your body telling you to slow-down, eat right and exercise – You need to meditate or pray to help relieve stress.

If you are going, going, going, you will burn out…who will you help then?

Affirmation

Say: I will time to recharge my batteries.

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Best things come in small packages

Most of us have heard this in reference to jewelry for women. I will agree.

However, it also applies to life. We do not need the big things in life to survive…we need the little things – a hug, a kiss, a smile.

I get the greatest high when people are pleasant to me. I get an even greater high when I am pleasant to others.

Affirmation
Say: I will hug, kiss and smile at others today!

Friday, March 26, 2010

If your mouth is open you can’t listen

They are many of us that can go on and on about any topic. If you are one of those people, take the time today to just listen and ask questions of others.

You will make others feel special and you will learn something.

Affirmation

Say: I will listen today.

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Belief’s can limit you or set you free

The things that you believe can limit you or set you free.
Do you believe that you will fail?
Then you will.
Do you believe that you can succeed?
Then you will.

If you believe that it always hard, then it always will be.
If you believe that things will get better, then they will!

Affirmation

Say: I will work hard to better my believe system.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Reach out

Many of us are too proud to ask for help. Or maybe it’s just not in our personality. Also, it’s possible we want those to pay better attention to our struggles and help us.

Guess what? Not everyone is that in tune to you. Not everyone can read your mind or is focused on what you might need.
People want to help you! I promise. They sometimes just need to be asked.
Affirmation

Say: I will ask for help when I need it.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Room to grow

Never stop learning, never stop growing. It is through new experiences that we become closer to the universe, enlightenment, God.
The minute you stop, you might as well be 6 ft under.

Affirmation –


Say: I will learn something new today.

Monday, March 15, 2010

Down for a week!

Daily Affirmations - will be down the rest of the week. Electricity is out due to bad storms. If I can post more later, I will! Have a blessed week, everyone.

Smile in Adversity

Being angry lets the world know that things aren't ok - but real strength comes when you smile in adversity.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Open your mind to new ideas

If you cannot open yourself to new ideas you will always be in the same place that you are in right now.  Don't just believe the headlines, release limiting beliefs and read the article.  Don't just listen to what others say - do the research and see for yourself!  There isn't only one way in the world.

When you experience new concepts and new thoughts you grow as a human being. 

Today say: I will talk with someone who thinks differently from me and I will learn something new.

Sunday, March 7, 2010

When you exercise your body - you exercise your brain

Experts agree that exercise does a million good things for us. You will experience less sickness, less pain and have a more positive outlook. Successful happy people exercise!
Don't use pain or illness as an excuse. There is something that can get you moving. You've seen people on TV shows. They start to exercise and miraculously no longer have to have that surgery on their knees and/or can stop taking medication!
Say to yourself: I will start exercising for me and my health!

Saturday, March 6, 2010

Life is short

I saw a quote yesterday.  I'll paraphrase.  It said that you can always find lost money but you cannot find lost time.  This means time must be more valuable than money.

Spend your time wisely - self, family, friends.  No one went to the grave thinking..."I wish I spent less time with people that I care about and more time on things that were not the most important."

Say to yourself: I will spend my time with the right things and people.

Friday, March 5, 2010

Speak the truth with love

When we are passive aggressive, oblique or say words to hurt - it only makes a bad situation worse. You must speak or your feelings will fester. Do speak and do it with honor and integrity. It's ok to tell someone, you hurt my feelings. Tell them from love and kindness - as a way for them to learn more about you. Take your time. If you react then venom will come from you but, if you wait you might find one of two things. That is wasn't worth getting into or that you are angry about something completely different. Productive conversations can then take place.
Say to yourself: I will share my feeling with love, honor and integrity.

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Just for laughs - Zen Teachings

ZEN Teachings

1. Do not walk behind me, for I may not lead. Do not walk ahead of me, for I may not follow. Do not walk beside me for the path is narrow. In fact, just leave me alone.

2. Sex is like air. It's not important unless you aren't getting any.

3. No one is listening until you fart.

4. Always remember you're unique. Just like everyone else.

5. Never test the depth of the water with both feet.

6. If you think nobody cares whether you're alive or dead, try missing a couple of mortgage payments.

7. Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

8. If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

9. Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach him how to fish, and he will sit in a boat and drink beer all day.

10. If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably well worth it.

11. If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.

12. Some days you are the bug; some days you are the wind shield.

13. Don't worry; it only seems kinky the first time.

14. Good judgment comes from bad experience and most of that comes from bad judgment.

15. A closed mouth gathers no foot.

16. There are two theories to arguing with women. Neither one works.

17. Generally speaking, you aren't learning much when your lips are moving.

18. Experience is something you don't get until just after you need it.

19. We are born naked, wet and hungry, and get slapped on our ass . then things just get worse.

20. Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night......

Happy Thursday. :-)

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Don't mourn lost friendships

"If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably well worth it." - From  Zen Teachings Joke Email that my sister sent me.

People come in and out of our lives for reasons.  When people are our friends they are there for a reason.  If they leave it was for a reason, too.  AND not because of something you did or didn't do - it just happens.  If you are always your authentic-self then you will always have rotating friendships.  They will teach you things about yourself - some good and some bad.  Absorb and learn.  When they leave, thank them in your heart.

Say to yourself: I will cherish my lost friendships.

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Don't let adversity get you down

What is your challenge?  Let it all out. It's ok to say, "Things are not ok."   Honoring your feelings of fear and disappointment can help you with change.  Change for the better.  After you have had it out - think of something small that you can do to move you forward.  Don't go for crazy big just start small and add to it on a regular basis - hourly, daily, weekly, monthly...you get the picture.

Say: I will rise above the adversity.

Sunday, February 28, 2010

Enjoy the sunshine

Sunshine has been proven by several scientific research studies to improve symptoms of depression. If the weather isn't your ideal at least get spend some time by a window with daylight on your face. You can also buy special light bulbs the "act" like the sun. You'll be amazed at how much better you will feel.  Does is cure depression?  I don't know about that.  Not sure if there is a cure but, with strong research it's at least worth a try.

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Cheer others on and see your energy sore!

Nothing gets my energy more revved up than cheering others on!  When people are down, try to lift them up.  When people are up support them to keep it going.   Don't be envious, jealous or look for way to bring them down - instead absorb the positive energy and lift it even more.  Think about how a crowd can spur on a team to victory in sports!  Cheering others is infectious and can bring a smile to our own face.

Friday, February 26, 2010

Choose your words carefully, day 3

Third, are you clear to others? Use words other people understand and communication automatically become easier. You assume people understand you, even if you speak the same language and that is rarely the case. When you say, "that person didn't hear me" you really mean, "that person didn't understand me." It's not always their fault - make sure you are using words others understand and more importantly - can relate to...

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Choose your words carefully, day 2

Second, words you use for others. Are they mean spirited? Are they personal and judgmental? Whether you think them or say them - you hurt yourself more.

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Choose your words carefully

When you think about the words you use and choose carefully - wonderful things happen. Consider the words you use for yourself. Do you use words that convey positive energy, confidence and success? Try for today to only use positive words and at the end of the day see how you feel. Check your outlook.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Goals without plans are just dreams

It is important to know what you want - that's a goal. Know that there is something out there to strive for can be motivating. However, without a plan of action you will just focus on the end results without ever getting there.

I know people who put pictures of Tuscany on their walls and say "someday." What is lacking is the plan. How much does it cost? How would I get there? What small things do I need to do each day to accomplish the task of getting to Tuscany? What obstacles could I run into? Have I done the research?

Hmmmm - Rarely do we go on a trip with our maps, itineraries and some thought to our travels - if the end result is the destination.

The person with the picture on the wall is just dreaming.

Have a goal - set up a plan.

Monday, February 22, 2010

Look to the future

Looking to the past is good for learning lessons and moving on - and THAT'S ALL. If you continue to cry or lament over what has happened before now then you are living in the past. There is no future and before you know it's here and what do you have to show for it but a list of "shoulda, coulda, woulda."

View the past but only for a moment. Look to the future and make change happen. Don't waste time! Start now.

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Rest

It's Sunday. We spend all week going crazy. Make sure you take time to relax and recharge your energy. It's sometimes so hard for us to make time for ourselves but, it's a must. If you spend a lot of time alone during the week then get out and socialize. Whatever it is make it different from Monday thru Saturday. Variations in life make it rich and meaningful.

Saturday, February 20, 2010

Get clear

Get clear about what you want.  Set intentions and then announce them to the world.  Don't just grasp at anything - it'll leave you clawing at a cliff side.  Instead - focus.  You must be clear or the universe will not know what you want.  Take the time to meditate, pray, journal, draw - whatever your medium don't do it while driving or in the shower or washing the dishes.  Find a quiet place that is your own and think.  Also put something in black and white so that you can go back to it and revise it as you move through life.  But for goodness sake - at least give it a start.

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Embrace uncertainty!

Uncertainty can be exciting! "What’s around the corner?" Many times uncertainty brings about opportunities. Remember when we were younger and we weren't sure what the world had in store for us? It's still that way and it should be. Imagine a life that was so planned that there was no room for change or growth or another idea. Embrace uncertainty - explore all possibilities!

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

"Check out your own B.S." - Jewel Diamond-Taylor

B.S. refers to belief system. What you believe to be true is true. I SAY this all the time! If you think the sky is orange well, guess what it is...If you believe that you can't...well, you can't. If you believe you can...YOU WILL! I know it's all tied into self-esteem and confidence. It is possible to change your limiting beliefs. It takes small steps, tenacity and patience. Don't give up. If you say - there are no jobs out there for me then you will never work again. If you say - I'll never figure out what I want to do in life - guess what??? Start with you - what have you done in life so far? I'll bet you can think of 10 things you've accomplished that are fabulous! Why not add a little optimism in there and think to yourself  --  there are 10 more things ahead of you.

All you have to do is believe.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Patience

Good things come to those who wait! Right? It's so hard to wait, sometimes - especially when we are coming from a place of desperation. We might think that we don't have the time to wait but, worrying and fretting never bring about the things that we need or desire. Sometimes desperation will cause us to be rash and do things that might sabotage what we need.


If you are impatient when cooking a cake and open the oven door before it is ready – it will fall. Be patient and let the cake finish cooking!

Monday, February 15, 2010

Do not let fear paralyze you!

Fear is a good thing.  It helps us protect ourselves from the things that can really harm us.  But, we use it too much as an excuse.  It readily available to use for not doing...for not changing.  Use fear wisely to protect yourself BUT, don't use it as a crutch.  To get any happiness or success, you must be willing to set aside fear and take that leap of faith. Take risks or you will always get the same thing.

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Happy Valentine’s Day

Today think of those that you love and who love you. Don't pay attention to the wife who got flowers at the office today. That is not what Valentines should be about. There is so much love in the world and I know you experience from someone...you might now know this person, yet, but they are out there. In the meantime, think about the importance people in your life and fill your heart.

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Self-Pity

Instead of focusing on “poor me, it’s too hard.” Think instead of what you can do for this moment. We tend to focus too much on what we don’t have or can’t do that we never can see what we CAN do. Solutions are the answer to the power of positive energy and the end of self-pity.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Acknowledge anger and use it wisely

It's ok to be angry...as a matter of fact - it's important to live out our anger. It can be a motivator, a balance maker, and even a peace maker. Anger helps us define our values and set boundaries. It's how we behave in our anger that can be harmful. Turn it inward and it can become depression - which can create a pain inside us that no one sees. Turn it outward with the purpose if hurting and it becomes destructive. Use your anger wisely to help you see how to make things better with yourself, others and the world.

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Small steps - add up...

Small steps add up to giant moment.  Ever think about the mountains on our beautiful earth???  They are there because of small movement over time.  OK - I get it - You want it and you want it NOW!  Impatientence can lead to disaster.  How many time have you needed in NOW and didn't get it only to survive?  And maybe even thrive.  Think of your small steps as moment toward that mountain of success.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Power is yours and only yours

You have the power to make change in yourself. No one else can do this for you. You cannot sit around and ask that others do what you can only do yourself. If you do this, you will be waiting a long time and will be miserable. When you take ownership of your power – you can change yourself…your world.

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

I am worry free

Worry is a vampire that drains you of your right to be at peace. Worry makes you helpless, creates confusion and can blind you to the truth and power of the moment. Write down what is worrying you now. Put the paper to a window that has sun. Everyone knows that when a vampire is exposed to the sun, it burns and turns to ash never to harm you again.

Monday, February 8, 2010

Use your wisdom

Experience gives us a lot!  Draw from it.  Experience is your wisdom.  You are so much smarter than you give yourself credit for having.   Next time you find yourself saying that you can't - STOP - think of a time you though you couldn't and you did.  That's wisdom.  Maybe you had to learn a new way or try something different.  You've succeeded before you can do it again.  Through your wisdom.

Friday, February 5, 2010

List those great qualities!

Don't let your fear or self-esteem hold you back from anything.  Don't think for one minute you can't do something!  Whatever that "something" is - there are others less capable than you do it!  What's the worst that can happen if you try.  Feeling less than courageous.  Look in the mirror and write down what you love about yourself - brains and all!

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Just Keep Moving

It's easy to get paralized by fear and failures.  There is a famous quote by Henry Ford that says he failed a ton before finding success.  For some of us, success is a good job, healthy life and good friends/family.  That's big and I know you can do those things!  You just have to keep moving.  Think forward!

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Positive Mind

A positive mind creates positive energy which makes magic happen.  It's ok to go to a negative state - it's called a "reality check" but, don't dwell  -- focus on what you can do to make things better.  There is always a way. 

Monday, February 1, 2010

Don't Try to Be Perfect - Just Be Excellent

"Perfect" is the ultimate phrase. But trying to attain perfection can cause stress, hinder efficiency, and create unnecessary conflicts with the people around you.   Shoot for excellence - meditate to calm youself and say that you are doing the best that you can do!

For more on this today, go to my career coaching blog: http://www.thelegalappeal.blogspot.com/

Thursday, January 28, 2010

Take a walk

Feeling overwhelmed?  About to lose it?  Don't take it out on others - just go take a walk.  Getting away from the moment can some times relax your. Exercise clears the mind.  Endorphines will energize you in a more positive way.  You will feel better and more powerful.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

It's ok to dream!

It's OK to dream for something but, until you make an action plan - it stays just that - a dream.  To change your dreams into reality, set forth realistic goals.  Make them small at first and build upon them and someday your dreams will be reality.

Monday, January 25, 2010

Being Kind Multiplies

When you are kind it multiplies by a least a minimum of 2. (1) You feel better, thus you become healthier. (2) You make someone else feel better and they will spread the positive energy. At that point, the positive effective probably multiplies beyond our imagination!

Friday, January 22, 2010

Making mistakes

Make mistakes - go ahead!  It's how we learn.  Don't wallow in self-pity but instead,  take the lessons and do better!  If you find yourself repeating mistakes you aren't learning and things won't change.  Ask someone to help see the lessons and perhaps you won't repeat!

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

When in Doubt Just Keep Laughing

Laughter is an amazing medicine for whatever ails you! I find that if I'm in a grumpy mood I search http://www.youtube.com/ for funny videos. This always puts me in a better mood. Positive mind sets make us more motivated and productive.

Monday, January 18, 2010

Martin Luther King

Dr. Martin Luther King changed the world with peace and love.  I hope we keep his legacy alive.

Friday, January 15, 2010

Be Yourself - It's Easier That Way

Trying to be something you are not is such a waste of energy.  Small daily improvements are better than creating a false façade that will crumble at the first sign of stress.  Just try to be a better you.

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Spike, the Cat

The sun is always shining even when it's behind the clouds.  My kitty of 18 yrs died last night and today I will grieve but, I know he had a good life and I will celebrate that tomorrow.  Today, I reflect and decide any lessons I can learn.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Believe in Yourself

You have to keep on believing in yourself. When you stop believing you give up. Never give up! Even when you think all is lost, it is not. You still have wonderful, beautiful you.

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

You are what you do not what you say.

Many of us are good at talking up a good story but we are never good at walking the walk. Set your intentions and then take action!

Monday, January 11, 2010

Happy New Year

Take the time to reflect.  Many of us focus on what was wrong with 2009 - but what went right?  How will 2010 be better?  How will you be better?  Try at the very least to be optimistic!