Real Love Builds Futures

Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other

but in looking outward together in the same direction.

~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Wind, Sand and Stars, 1939,

translated from French by Lewis Galantière

When you speak of the people you care about do you speak of the journey you are taking together?  Think of the journey of relationships like cars on the road.   Get too fixated on the interior beauty instead of the road and you will, either, never go anywhere or you will surely crash.   The purpose of the car is not the design, it is to help you on your journey.   Interiors will fade and paint will chip but take care of the car and keep it moving and it will run for a long long time.  Relationships are the same.  You might get a little grey and add a few wrinkles but if you work together on your journey, your relationship will last a long long time.

AFFIRMATION - say: "I will work with my love ones to build a future,

for there lies the fulfillment."

Alone

“You're only lonely if you're not there for you.” – Phil C. McGraw

The lonely times in life are when you don’t love yourself. Relying solely on others for self worth will create loneliness. If you are lonely reach out to yourself first – do something for yourself that brings a smile to your face. Loneliness is a world you create for yourselves and only you can undo the loneliness. First desire it and then act upon it.

Affirmation – Say: “I will choose to leave loneliness behind me. I will find love within myself.”

Awareness

Do you have blinders on? When overwhelm or underwhelm occurs, it is easy to stick our heads in the sand and pretend things are not there. Take a moment to look around and see if you are engaged with the world, the people you love and yourself. Are you aware of your behaviors? Are they representing the real you? Something could be out of sync. It’s ok to ask for help in seeing the blind spots of your life.




Affirmation – Say: “I will be more aware of myself and everything around me.”

Happy Valentine’s Day

Today think of those that you love and who love you. Don't pay attention to the wife who got flowers at the office today. That is not what Valentines should be about. There is so much love in the world and I know you experience from someone...you might now know this person, yet, but they are out there. In the meantime, think about the importance people in your life and fill your heart.

Never apologize

Never apologize for doing something that makes you happy, for doing something you are passionate about - I doubt you are hurting anyone.  Instead, share with others and explain why doing ____________ makes you happy!  People who love us, love when we share.

Ask for Help!

It's OK to ask for help. People love helping. When I ask for help, I usually get it with a smile. I used to think of it as a sign of weakness but it's not! Even super heroes have their specialty and can't do it all! I also used to think, "People should see that I'm struggling and that I need help!" But, people live in their own world and see it from their view point. Not all can see it the way you see it. Next time, just ask for help!

Live in the Moment

We can get so fixated on what might or might not happen for us in the future that we forget to enjoy today. Take some time to notice some perfect moments today. I saw my kids laughing hysterically and sharing a loving moment. Nothing is more perfect than that - for me. I'll bet you have nice moment today - take some time to "Live in that Moment."

Love Yourself First!

You must love yourself in order for others to love you. If you put yourself down, you can make it difficult for others to raise you up or give you a chance. Whether looking for a mate, business partner or new job, you must praise yourself. Confidence and love are communicable and others will catch it!