Don't regret!

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. "~ Mark Twain

Mental Health Day

When was the last time you took a mental health day.  If you are on the go, go, go.  STOP and take a break.  You body needs rest and so does your brain.  Peace of mind is only attained if you take care of your mental stress and that's by either resting away from stress or participating in some fun.  Give yourself a mental break this week if not today.

Go to success

"Success doesn't come to you…you go to it."

Marva Collins

Do and Dare

"The person who gets the farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore."


–Dale Carnegie

Dare to believe in yourself

Sometimes it is hard to have faith in our ablities.  We are all capable in some way or another.  Don't let the small things get your down or the harsh things others might say stop you.  Belive in yourself and your abilities - the only thing keeping you from where you want to be is yourself.

Avoid or confront

It's OK to do either as long as it is for healthy reasons and they are done with a lot of thought as to the consequenses.  Sometimes we avoid to keep from hurting others or ourselves.  Sometimes we do it to be deceptive.  When we confront we should do it from a respectful point of view and with the idea of helping others.

Don't consent inferiority

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


- Eleanor Roosevelt

Decisions

'I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I


usually make the right decision.'

Maya Angelou

Leaning on others?

It's super important to get support from others and get help - but, be very careful to not lean too hard.  They might not be able to hold you up or they may not know that are suppposed to hold you up.  This could lead to a hard and unpleasant fall.  When you ask for help be sure to also figure out a way to do it yourself later.  Let them teach you to be stonger!

Payoff in wallowing?

What benefit do you get in wallowing in self pity?  Attention?  Comfort in the familiar?  Company from others who wallow, too?  Excuse to not change?  Excuse to not do the work you need to do to feel better?  You are strong and can do whatever it is that you need to do!  You can also ask for help.  You don't have to be alone.  Family and friends can and will help!

Drifting, Coping, Surviving, Thriving

It's all in perspective.  What is your viewpoint?  How do you talk about your life?  Is there hope or do you go around and complain about how rough you have it?  I understand.  Sometimes we just need some understanding from others that thing just aren't OK.  You can be in a rut and smiling, too.  It all in perspective.

Never apologize

Never apologize for doing something that makes you happy, for doing something you are passionate about - I doubt you are hurting anyone.  Instead, share with others and explain why doing ____________ makes you happy!  People who love us, love when we share.

Gifts

You are a gift to the world.  Think of the many things you do for others.  Keep up the good work!

Do you need it? Or do you want it?

There are things in life we really really need, however, most things we crave are just wants.  What can you do without and what can you let go of mentally?  It is freeing to not desire so strongly.

Adversity makes us grow

When you are on a healing path after a set back - stop and look at the lessons.  All things in life good and bad teach us to be better human beings.

Worry doesn't get you anywhere but it does make you think

The phrase "don't worry" isn't always the best advice usless it's followed by "make a plan."  Worry is like fear in that it can protect us.  When we are fearful we put up our guard to protect ourselves.  Worry can help us as long as we use it wisely.  Use it to have back up plans.  If you make no use of worry, it is a waste of brain power!

Forgiveness doesn't mean forget

Sometimes we think that hanging on to our anger lets everyone know it's not OK.  However, smiling in adversity is the most powerful thing you can do.

Change of seasons, change of attitude

Do you feel the change in the air?  It's getting crisp and the air feels fresh.  Go for a walk and enjoy mother nature.  Nothing beats a walk for clearing your head!  It's great for the Vitamin D and the increase blood to your brain!  You think you don't have the time but you'll be more productive with a quick change of pace!

Be at peace with anger

It's ok to be angry - it's what you do with the anger that matters. Anger helps us. With it we can set boundaries and define our values. Acting out in passive aggressive behavior does nothing to honor this. Be direct and honest about what makes you angry and target the value not the "thing." Use it to recognize that something is not OK. However, if you gossip, communicate with sarcasm or turn off listening, you will gain nothing. Take a moment to be at peace with what makes you angry and learn from it.

How are you handling things?

'I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she


handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled

Christmas tree lights.' ~ Maya Angelou

I'd also add being stuck in traffic.

What are you waiting for???

Why wait??? Go for it! I know you can do it! Why are you resisting??? What is holding your back? Is it real or is it an excuse??? There are people out there with tougher challenges yet, they are going for it. Why not you???

Are you insane?

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.


Albert Einstein, (attributed)

US (German-born) physicist (1879 - 1955)

...try something different.

Quit or Not to Quit?

There are many times when we just want to give up on whatever is draining us. It's ok to sometimes say, "I'm done!" If you are drained and not energized, you may need to walk away - but only if you have exhausted all possibilities. There are times when quitting is the easiest thing to do but not necessarily the right thing to do. Get help from good friends or professionals before making a rash decision. Only after you have carefully weighed the pros and cons, should you move on.

Give or take?

You need to give and take in this world.  If all you ever do is give, you'll fall over from being unbalanced.  If you all ever do it take... eventually, you'll fall over because no one will help you up.

Words We Use

Watch the words you use to describe yourself.  Words can be either healthy or toxic.  It depends on context and intent.  If you mean yourself harm when you call yourself "stupid" then you are using words in a toxic manner and it will harm you.  Once, maybe not but my guess if you've said it once, you've said it a lot.  Say harmful words enough and they will start to own you.  I use self-deprecating humour only to make people laugh.  If it's something I belive then I watch it closely.  Watch your toxic works and if you can't help but think they are true.  Change the words you use and you'll see a difference.

Happiness is Contagious!

Not sure how to feel better when you are down?  Instead of just complaining, call someone who is always happy!  Surely there is someone out there that always makes you laugh.  Yesterday, I was a little down in the morning but, I then saw the funniest Youtube video about a cat that puts it's head under the faucet.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uW_-oyAldfo I was intantly in a better mood.  From now on, I'm going to search Youtube for humor! 

What Kind of Message Are You Sending?

When we are in a negative state, it doesn't matter what we say - people will still feel our negativity.  You can say "yes" to people but, if you are coming from a place of "no" people will get a sense that you are saying no anyway.   Are you not engaged with them?  Are you holding back?  Have you stopped giving to them?   Better to open up, be honest.  They will misinterpet the body language if you don't let them know what's going on with you.  No matter how much you think you are hiding, people still see you.

PS. - if you like these daily affirmations, please share with others.  Thanks! Lorin

Think Good Things

A man is literally what he thinks ~ James Allen

If you think you are a loser, then you are a loser and will treat others as losers.  When your thoughts are self-depricating and you will live what you believe.  You then create a muddy picture of the world.  Changing self thoughts is not easy but is neccessary for a better life.  Start simply with even the smallest idea such as, "I am good at breathing."

Watch

Borrowed from my friend Karen G. (via Facebook) Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

Share. It'll make you richer.

If you give you will receive the same in return. Share your knowledge and people will do in kind. Share your love and you will never be without.

Change Is Good!

Fall is on it's way.  The earth will go into slumber and awaken fresh and new in the Spring.  We too must look at change as a way to rest for the things that have made us weary.  Find energy in change - for it is something to look forward to!

If your are tired, then rest

You need to take care of yourself.  If you don't then how can you take care of others.  I know I am guilty of not looking out for myself when I need to - I always say - "I have too much to do to sit down."  Then I fall down.  Not good.  I will sit down when I need to for now on.

Sometimes it's just hard...

...to do anything.  But I keep trying and never give up.  I allow myself one moment of pity party and then I start my mind over again.  I have to tell myself that I can do it.  If I tell myself that I can't...then I won't.  I accept that sometimes it will be hard and sometimes it will be easy.  However, the it's things that are hard to over come that makes us proud and grateful.

Don't Worry

Dont worry about a thing, cause every little thing gonna be all right.
Singin: dont worry about a thing,cause every little thing gonna be all right!

Rise up this mornin, Smiled with the risin sun,
Three little birds, Pitch by my doorstep
Singin sweet songs, Of melodies pure and true,

Sayin, (this is my message to you-ou-ou:)

Singin: dont worry bout a thing,cause every little thing gonna be all right.
Singin: dont worry (dont worry) bout a thing,cause every little thing gonna be all right!

~Bob Marley

short hiatus

My apologies to those that are following this blog: I meant to warn a hiatus and forgot! This daily blog is back.

Cheers,
Lorin

Ask for Help!

It's OK to ask for help. People love helping. When I ask for help, I usually get it with a smile. I used to think of it as a sign of weakness but it's not! Even super heroes have their specialty and can't do it all! I also used to think, "People should see that I'm struggling and that I need help!" But, people live in their own world and see it from their view point. Not all can see it the way you see it. Next time, just ask for help!

Mental Toxins

Mental toxins are the negative words we use about ourselves. Whether we speak them out loud or think them in our head they do nothing to boost our self image. Take words like: "How could I be so stupid, " or "I'm not good at..." or even, "I'm a failure." - these do nothing good for us. As a matter of fact, they have a negative effect. Just like you need to put good food in your body to be healthy, you need to put good words in your head to have mental health!

Be Direct

When communicating, don't assume people know what you want. You must tell them! Oblique may seem nice or less aggressive but what it you are really doing is passive aggressive. Trying being direct. It doesn't mean be a jerk, it just means be clear. People will thank you for it.

I'm great! How are you?

Try this experiment today: Whenever someone says, "How are you?" Tell them you are doing great, instead of the usual - "I'm fine." or "Doing good." You must use some enthusiasm, too. You'll really peek peoples interest and by the end of the day you'll probably be in the best mood. People will ask you why you're so great. You can just tell them that you don't know but you just are and that will be good enough! They'll want whatever you are "taking."

Thank Someone Today

Today is the day of appreciation. Tell someone thank you or that they did a good job - even if the just live up to expectations. People like feeling important and noticed. Don't you? How motivated are you to repeat your actions if you get praised for it?

Live in the Moment

We can get so fixated on what might or might not happen for us in the future that we forget to enjoy today. Take some time to notice some perfect moments today. I saw my kids laughing hysterically and sharing a loving moment. Nothing is more perfect than that - for me. I'll bet you have nice moment today - take some time to "Live in that Moment."

Happy Birthday, Morgan!

Today is my 4 year old daughters birthday. I can remember her first moments of life! All great things were ahead of her. I want you to pretend today is your "Birth" day. Take this moment to start a new outlook on life! You can start over if you want! You may say that you haven't always been good and maybe you are not worthy. You are worthy and it's important to start over with a fresh outlook if you want to be better! Happy Birthday to everyone!

Do Someone a Favor Today

It'll make you feel great. Do it without expecting anything in return.

Have Some Fun Today!

I think this will post on Sunday. I declare this Sunday as "No Grumpiness Day!" If you start to feel the grumps coming on just picture the audience naked. Oh what, wrong advice. Hmmmm. If you start to feel the grumps coming on just try to.....

Smile in Adversity

“Sometimes we think that if we hang on to our anger and bad attitude, we show that it’s not ok – but real strength is smiling in adversity.” - unknown. If you are angry at someone today, try letting go. It drains your energy and makes you ineffective at solving problems. In other words, take the high road and make wonderful things happen.

Do Something...Anything

Start with writing it down. Putting your desires on paper will help propel you in that direction. It'll be more clear to the universe...to yourself. Once you have clarity, then you must take action. Wanting without action is like sitting in a rocking chair. There is movement but you're not getting anywhere. Do something small today to take you where you want to go.

It's OK to Want...

Just don't sit around and mope about it. Don't be embarrasssed about it. It's ok to want because otherwise how would God/the Universe, etc. know what to bring us? I remember wanting a husband and being embarrassed until I realized that is was ok to want a husband. Men want wives and we think it's sweet. So, I relaxed and had fun at life while I waited. It was a better journey. I had patience knowing all that I wanted would come to me if I named it.

You Go Girl/Guy!

Give yourself a compliment everyday. No matter how big or small, those compliments will add up! A boost of self-confidence starts with focusing on what you do right. Don't wait for others to do it for you. You have to make it happen for yourself. You are great and the things you say and do are great, too! At sports events there are others who boost a players performance. It's the fans cheering and cheering - that's great motivation! Cheer yourself on, today!

Love Yourself First!

You must love yourself in order for others to love you. If you put yourself down, you can make it difficult for others to raise you up or give you a chance. Whether looking for a mate, business partner or new job, you must praise yourself. Confidence and love are communicable and others will catch it!

Honor Anger

If you are angry, it is valid. Someone has broken a rule in your eyes. How you behave in this anger is what will destroy those around you. Always take time to be in the moment without giving your anger voice or fist. Find a rational place to discuss the events that make you angry. You'll find that people will listen better to someone that has thought things through.

Laughing Cures!

Laughing is addictive and makes you feel better! Health studies have shown that laughter can and will make you feel better and in some instances speed recovery after aliment or surgery! Feeling down? Find a funny movie to watch, go to youtube, google for funny jokes. When I feel down, I call my sister. No matter how she is feeling, she always cracks jokes and makes me laugh. I feel great when I get off the phone with her. Call someone who makes you laugh - right now!

Self Care

Self Care is commonly mistaken for selfishness. We must take care of ourselves or we will never be able to take care of others. The same is true of our business, our clients, our partner, our spouse, our children, our parents...Care should be about kindess, phycial health and mental health. Be kind to yourself today.

Peace

We can have peace. It's sometimes simple; such as a taking a few breathes. When we are calm and rational we make better decisions. Reboot - lets close our eyes and slowly count to ten. Do you feel yourself becoming calmer? Now, close your eyes and take a few deep breathes. This will take toxins out of our body. Have a peaceful day.

Happiness

Happiness lies within us. If we wait for other people or things to make us happy we will be disappointed. Happiness is a gift from God, the creator, the universe, - whatever your beliefs we are, Happiness is still a gift. Just try a smile, right now. Doesn't that already feel better?

Opportunity Is For You and Me

Opportunities are everywhere. It's ok that we take part. As there are many who get and take advantage of opportunities, we can do the same. We do not have to sit by while others do what we want to do. We can be active participants.



With Kindness, Lorin