Payoff in wallowing?

What benefit do you get in wallowing in self pity?  Attention?  Comfort in the familiar?  Company from others who wallow, too?  Excuse to not change?  Excuse to not do the work you need to do to feel better?  You are strong and can do whatever it is that you need to do!  You can also ask for help.  You don't have to be alone.  Family and friends can and will help!

Ask for Help!

It's OK to ask for help. People love helping. When I ask for help, I usually get it with a smile. I used to think of it as a sign of weakness but it's not! Even super heroes have their specialty and can't do it all! I also used to think, "People should see that I'm struggling and that I need help!" But, people live in their own world and see it from their view point. Not all can see it the way you see it. Next time, just ask for help!