Avoid or confront

It's OK to do either as long as it is for healthy reasons and they are done with a lot of thought as to the consequenses.  Sometimes we avoid to keep from hurting others or ourselves.  Sometimes we do it to be deceptive.  When we confront we should do it from a respectful point of view and with the idea of helping others.

Think Good Things

A man is literally what he thinks ~ James Allen

If you think you are a loser, then you are a loser and will treat others as losers.  When your thoughts are self-depricating and you will live what you believe.  You then create a muddy picture of the world.  Changing self thoughts is not easy but is neccessary for a better life.  Start simply with even the smallest idea such as, "I am good at breathing."