Ask for Help!

It's OK to ask for help. People love helping. When I ask for help, I usually get it with a smile. I used to think of it as a sign of weakness but it's not! Even super heroes have their specialty and can't do it all! I also used to think, "People should see that I'm struggling and that I need help!" But, people live in their own world and see it from their view point. Not all can see it the way you see it. Next time, just ask for help!

Mental Toxins

Mental toxins are the negative words we use about ourselves. Whether we speak them out loud or think them in our head they do nothing to boost our self image. Take words like: "How could I be so stupid, " or "I'm not good at..." or even, "I'm a failure." - these do nothing good for us. As a matter of fact, they have a negative effect. Just like you need to put good food in your body to be healthy, you need to put good words in your head to have mental health!

Be Direct

When communicating, don't assume people know what you want. You must tell them! Oblique may seem nice or less aggressive but what it you are really doing is passive aggressive. Trying being direct. It doesn't mean be a jerk, it just means be clear. People will thank you for it.

I'm great! How are you?

Try this experiment today: Whenever someone says, "How are you?" Tell them you are doing great, instead of the usual - "I'm fine." or "Doing good." You must use some enthusiasm, too. You'll really peek peoples interest and by the end of the day you'll probably be in the best mood. People will ask you why you're so great. You can just tell them that you don't know but you just are and that will be good enough! They'll want whatever you are "taking."

Thank Someone Today

Today is the day of appreciation. Tell someone thank you or that they did a good job - even if the just live up to expectations. People like feeling important and noticed. Don't you? How motivated are you to repeat your actions if you get praised for it?

Live in the Moment

We can get so fixated on what might or might not happen for us in the future that we forget to enjoy today. Take some time to notice some perfect moments today. I saw my kids laughing hysterically and sharing a loving moment. Nothing is more perfect than that - for me. I'll bet you have nice moment today - take some time to "Live in that Moment."

Happy Birthday, Morgan!

Today is my 4 year old daughters birthday. I can remember her first moments of life! All great things were ahead of her. I want you to pretend today is your "Birth" day. Take this moment to start a new outlook on life! You can start over if you want! You may say that you haven't always been good and maybe you are not worthy. You are worthy and it's important to start over with a fresh outlook if you want to be better! Happy Birthday to everyone!

Do Someone a Favor Today

It'll make you feel great. Do it without expecting anything in return.

Have Some Fun Today!

I think this will post on Sunday. I declare this Sunday as "No Grumpiness Day!" If you start to feel the grumps coming on just picture the audience naked. Oh what, wrong advice. Hmmmm. If you start to feel the grumps coming on just try to.....

Smile in Adversity

“Sometimes we think that if we hang on to our anger and bad attitude, we show that it’s not ok – but real strength is smiling in adversity.” - unknown. If you are angry at someone today, try letting go. It drains your energy and makes you ineffective at solving problems. In other words, take the high road and make wonderful things happen.

Do Something...Anything

Start with writing it down. Putting your desires on paper will help propel you in that direction. It'll be more clear to the universe...to yourself. Once you have clarity, then you must take action. Wanting without action is like sitting in a rocking chair. There is movement but you're not getting anywhere. Do something small today to take you where you want to go.

It's OK to Want...

Just don't sit around and mope about it. Don't be embarrasssed about it. It's ok to want because otherwise how would God/the Universe, etc. know what to bring us? I remember wanting a husband and being embarrassed until I realized that is was ok to want a husband. Men want wives and we think it's sweet. So, I relaxed and had fun at life while I waited. It was a better journey. I had patience knowing all that I wanted would come to me if I named it.

You Go Girl/Guy!

Give yourself a compliment everyday. No matter how big or small, those compliments will add up! A boost of self-confidence starts with focusing on what you do right. Don't wait for others to do it for you. You have to make it happen for yourself. You are great and the things you say and do are great, too! At sports events there are others who boost a players performance. It's the fans cheering and cheering - that's great motivation! Cheer yourself on, today!

Love Yourself First!

You must love yourself in order for others to love you. If you put yourself down, you can make it difficult for others to raise you up or give you a chance. Whether looking for a mate, business partner or new job, you must praise yourself. Confidence and love are communicable and others will catch it!

Honor Anger

If you are angry, it is valid. Someone has broken a rule in your eyes. How you behave in this anger is what will destroy those around you. Always take time to be in the moment without giving your anger voice or fist. Find a rational place to discuss the events that make you angry. You'll find that people will listen better to someone that has thought things through.

Laughing Cures!

Laughing is addictive and makes you feel better! Health studies have shown that laughter can and will make you feel better and in some instances speed recovery after aliment or surgery! Feeling down? Find a funny movie to watch, go to youtube, google for funny jokes. When I feel down, I call my sister. No matter how she is feeling, she always cracks jokes and makes me laugh. I feel great when I get off the phone with her. Call someone who makes you laugh - right now!

Self Care

Self Care is commonly mistaken for selfishness. We must take care of ourselves or we will never be able to take care of others. The same is true of our business, our clients, our partner, our spouse, our children, our parents...Care should be about kindess, phycial health and mental health. Be kind to yourself today.

Peace

We can have peace. It's sometimes simple; such as a taking a few breathes. When we are calm and rational we make better decisions. Reboot - lets close our eyes and slowly count to ten. Do you feel yourself becoming calmer? Now, close your eyes and take a few deep breathes. This will take toxins out of our body. Have a peaceful day.

Happiness

Happiness lies within us. If we wait for other people or things to make us happy we will be disappointed. Happiness is a gift from God, the creator, the universe, - whatever your beliefs we are, Happiness is still a gift. Just try a smile, right now. Doesn't that already feel better?

Opportunity Is For You and Me

Opportunities are everywhere. It's ok that we take part. As there are many who get and take advantage of opportunities, we can do the same. We do not have to sit by while others do what we want to do. We can be active participants.



With Kindness, Lorin